Care

Everyone’s definition of care and approach is different. In my nursing role it is one of the 6 core values for us health and social care staff. It is what defines ‘us and our work’.

Along with most people, our first caregivers are usually our parents or carers that range from single parents, same sex parents, foster carers, biological parents or non-biological parents or other family members. Many families and cultures have different values about care. In my family and culture it is very common for extended family members to live together and take care of each other. This may differ for each individual but there is no wrong or right.

In my early twenties after I finished university and gone traveling, I decided to work in care. Caring for others always felt natural for me, as I was the older sister I would care for them, I felt I was caring towards my friends and would try to be there for them as a friend would. I loved how being a healthcare worker motivated me as I knew it was making a difference to that individual. I liked the teamwork involved also. I value kindness and caring involves being or showing kindness to others.

As I help others in different ways I meet different people and I get to hear their stories, understand them and support them. When I became a carer I was learning and still continue to learn so much as a professional about care. To be honest when I started in care I probably underestimated what it meant to care as I realised there is so much more to this.

In this current period, in a world of uncertainty and fear for most, there are those of us on the front line caring for others. But the message is also clear to the rest of the nation, take care of yourself! This is directed to us all to wash our hands, stay at home and implement social distancing so that we can work together and keep others safe. So the bigger picture is essentially, by caring for ourselves we purposefully help others too.

For some, this period of staying at home is liberating and an opportunity to create something new, but for others it may be possibly boring or feeling imprisoning. However this time allows us to reflect. Families or individuals have engaged in many tasks and activities to occupy themselves which have been shared across our social media sites.

So where am i going with this? 

So a lot of people don’t need educating on how to care as it comes naturally.

Recently I came to the realisation about my fears and limitations in care and what it meant to me! And this was having an impact on how I saw myself and with my relationships.

Using a modality called Theta healing I identified that due to previous experiences I had created the subconscious belief that kindness and showing care was weak and that I would be taken advantage of. I was like ‘Wow!’ This was not something I had expected as a nurse. But it happens, and our experiences can impact on our thoughts, feelings and beliefs and conversely our beliefs can impact on our thoughts, feelings and experiences.

Using Theta healing meditation I was able to then acknowledge when I first identified with this belief, which was a childhood experience. Theta brainwave allows us to access our subconscious thoughts, fears, memories and beliefs. So somewhere within my sub-consciousness this was stored and as a result I was creating patterns in my habits, behaviour and emotions to align with this belief.

This is ironic because I am a nurse that cares for others, so how does this match up?

The way this was manifesting was in areas of my life where I wasn’t able to care for myself or be kind to myself fully even though I do know how to but it wasn’t in the best possible way. It was also manifesting in all kinds of interactions with colleagues or family whereby I put up barriers which would create misunderstandings of my intentions.

Again why am I in care if this was manifesting?

I know how to care, but there were blocks in my beliefs that was pushing against me to be be fully caring to myself and to nurture those relationships around me to it’s fullest potential. I also continued to learn about care and value of caring for myself and others. I was in an autopilot mode of behaving and not consciously aware of this until there were patterns in my life that I was not happy with and wanted to change, however I didn’t realise it was related to care. Also nursing is not the greatest paid job so I was probably continuing to feel devalued in my role at times. So this was also enhancing my belief to continue to learn how to value and care for myself. 

I am happy that I care for others, during these circumstances, caring for others is important as there is a shortage so I am happy to offer my service.

However from identifying this belief and using Theta, I was able to change this to release this belief as it was holding me back in areas of my life whether it was work or my personal life, therefore I now can choose to continue working in care without being obligated to learn about care in this way but continue to enjoy caring for others and myself. 

So my question to you is this,

What areas in your life are you noticing patterns or are unhappy with? 

What could be the cause of this? 

Our conscious thoughts may not be able to identify them as our subconscious protects us from changing them possibly due to fear, or preventing us from repeating an experience we were in or observed from our loved ones.

Some common examples that you may consciously be aware of but not sure how to shift these patterns in your life are:

• “I won’t be able to do this”
• “I am not good enough”
• There is never enough time
• “I will fail/ I am a failure”
• “I am too old to start something new”
• “I am too young to get this promotion”
• “They won’t take me seriously”
• Poor love and relationships
• Poor health feeling undervalued
• Being the scapegoat in the family
• Poor family dynamics
• Lack of confidence
• Poor self esteem
• And many more

Using theta healing mediation and a theta healing practitioner, the cases of these patterns  can be identified and changed to empower us and manifest in a positive way.

To find out more about Theta contact me for a free consultation or visit my website at www.imanilight.com.